Success and Happiness
Happiness is defined as
A: a state of well-being and contentment: joy
B: a pleasurable or satisfying experience
“It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.”- Charles Spurgeon
Happiness is the result of what we do every day and enjoying every tiny bit of it. It is the state of well-being and contentment, rather than chasing big lofty dreams and ignoring one’s state of mind.
Being happy is a choice and not a result or reward.
As happiness is a state, those who tend to be happy have been more successful, have better health, are more productive and have better lasting relationships both at a personal and professional level. Thus it can be said being happy makes every aspect of life better.
Success is defined as:
A: degree or measure of succeeding
B: favorable or desired outcome; also: the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence
As per the definition of success above, most of us want to be successful, attain wealth through our work, get notoriety for our accomplishments, and be well respected in the community and now even the globally. These are very admirable qualities and everyone should strive to attain these goals, but only those who put in the hard work and dedication can actually achieve them. But success does not only mean being in the “Forbes” list, success can be attain at any level as long as one sets a challenging goal and puts in the work and dedication to achieving it. So another way of describing success can be the attainment of personal goals.
The word “success” is like the word “God.” If you ask 100 people what it means, every one of them will have a different answer. On one level, we understand that real success is about happiness. We know this. We’re not shallow and superficial. And yet…And yet most of us (ahem, even those of us who help people get happy for a living) easily confuse success for happiness — at least until we wise up.
A popular formula for success and happiness that’s guaranteed to fail is the following: When I have (insert measure of success here) I’ll be happy. It will fail because one doesn’t necessarily lead to the other. For example, in buying a car the excitement and the pleasure of driving up to the dealership to buy the car is the happiness and buying the car itself is the success. But if you scratch your car while pulling out of the dealer’s lot, you may lose that happiness right then or you can shrug it off and retain your happiness by enjoying the moment of driving such a great machine. Either way, it goes to show happiness is fluid unlike success which is solid.
Happiness is the natural result of being present in each moment with love and kindness toward oneself and others, rather than being attached to outcomes and results. Happiness is choosing to be a better human being and refraining from being judgmental. Being non-judgmental but more accepting leads to positive relationships, this leads to better friendship and family relationships. So loving us and others, results in happiness that are the outcome of operating from the spiritual values of caring, compassion and kindness.
How you personally define success and how you personally define happiness is entirely up to you. But recognize the difference.
Wishing you happiness — and success.
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